What causes you to forgo emotional restraint? One of the most embarrassing things a parent deals with is a toddler throwing a tantrum in public. The good news is that most children learn they do not get the outcome they want and grow out of this behaviour. When leading a youth camp, I took car keys from a 18yo male

Here is the benchmark: Healthy Christian Leaders self-regulate emotions. Being aware of the impact emotions have upon others, they take action to manage their emotions. One of the signs I was not emotionally well was becoming more critical in conversation. It became harder to hold my tongue—cynical and critical words flowed. Kindness was replaced with sharp bluntness. I found it

Emotions impact us and others Emotions have a big impact in our life. If we are feeling sad, our work will suffer. Anger often causes loss of clarity and distracts us from the important. Fatigue is a thick fog that immobilises. Gaining an understanding of your emotions is very important. Ignoring them is disastrous. Giving them unfettered reign is likewise

No one intends to become emotionally depleted. It’s a scary place. I’ve been there and don’t want to ever go back. This blog helps explain what that place is and how to help others who find themselves there. If you feel emotionally empty take some comfort in this: “You will get better. Your tank can refill. You have a shepherd

What would happen if you hit another crisis? On top of dealing with COVID and the normal challenges of life? Would you go under? If so, what can you do to strengthen buoyancy? Yes, verve can be lifted. My big encouragement here is to find someone to help you build emotional well-being. That person’s role is to help you see

1. What level is your emotional tank? How are you doing emotionally? Is your tank empty, just some in the tank, or full and ready to assist others? Yes, I am repeating myself.The key to maintaining your emotional well-being is firstly to take time to regularly reflect. This is wise. You should ask this question at least weekly: what level

Here is the benchmark: Healthy Christian Leaders Maintain Emotional Well-being. What does that look like? It’s living life with vigour and vim, not just keeping one’s head above water, but swimming with strength and ability sufficient to rescue others. One of the great keys to building emotional well-being is self-reflection which builds self-awareness. Another outcome of building self-reflection is self-moderation.

The main two things that develop self-reflection:Asking the right questionsPractising these questions How to practise?—Set a recurring schedule for reflection. Yes, this practice needs to be regular. So, make a diary entry for self-reflection. Mine is Mondays 9:00-11:00am. I label it ‘Reflect and Refocus’ and set the location to my home study and the beach. What time will you allocate

Here is a benchmark of healthy leaders: they practise self-reflection. You make assumptions. What happens when this is missing? You make assumptions about what is happening and react badly. Unhealthy leaders complain and blame, like Adam who when not in a good place, said to God, “The woman you gave me…”, like a pastor who says to God, “The people